The Rudimentary Difference...
I received a forwarded mail few days back which explains the differences in an apt fashion through a series of situations...

When a BOY......
When a BOY is quiet
He has nothing to say....

When a BOY looks at u with eyes full of questions,
He is really confused....

When a BOY answers "I M FINE" after a few seconds,
He is actually fine....

When a BOY stares at you,
He is either amazed or angry....

When a BOY lays in your lap,
he is wishing for you to be his forever....

When a BOY calls you everyday,
He is spending a lot of time to get your attention....

When A BOY sms's you everyday,
He is forwarding them....

When a BOY says "I LOVE YOU",
It's not the first time....

When a BOY says that he can't live without you,
He has made up his mind that you are his for at least a week.

When a GIRL.....

When a GIRL is quiet,
Millions of thoughts are running in her mind....

When a GIRL looks at you with eyes full of questions,
She is wondering how long will you be around....

When a GIRL answers " I M FINE" after a few seconds,
She is not at all fine....

When a GIRL stares at you,
She is wondering why are you lying....

When a GIRL lays on your chest,
She is wishing for you to be her's forever....

When a GIRL calls you everyday,
She is seeking for your attention....

When a GIRL sms's you everyday,
She wants you to reply at least once....

When a GIRL says, " I LOVE YOU",
She means it....

When a GIRL says, " I MISS YOU",
No one in this world can miss you more than her....

Phase Shift or Mind shift -"Quarter-Life Crisis."
The content of the blog is from a forwarded mail blended with my own...

• It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you don't know but at the same time you are scared to explore it because of the fear of complex....
• You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now....
• You start realizing that people are selfish and that maybe, those friends that you thought were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones....
• What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean, or insincere but that they are as confused as you in this phase....
• You look at your job...and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing in future, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you....
• Your opinions have gotten stronger.You have finally become more judgemental not just about materials,issues, situations but also for the class called people... You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't....
• You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused most of times....
• Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward....
• You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.....
• You love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person....
• You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a perfect decision if it does exists...
• You worry about loans, money, and the future and making a life for yourself...and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!!!!
• What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it.... We are in our best of times and worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
  
  
  

Rendezvous with The memory
I used to wonder how would it feel meeting someone close to your heart after a long long span..... a decade perhaps....a remarkable scene(where Rahul meets Anjali after 8 years) in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai says it all.... its something which is quite difficult to express in words.... this is what i wrote in a mail after a similar incident....

Three consecutive failures in planning my trip....had not undermined my decision to visit bangalore on the weekend ....this time i had to.... because if i havent i would have missed so much.... much of what i dont think i would have been ever able to make up for.... actually my trip had become quite important because i was suppose to meet a childhood friend.... the realtionship dates back to 17 years.... we first met when we were in class 1st... and for no special matters we were not in much contact with each other for the past 9 years..... 9 years back when fate made us depart..... we made a point that we would be in contact under all circumstances.... but most of times its the circumstances which control the human behavior rather then we excersising our mighty control over them....i dont think i should be concerned about the past when the present seems to be so perfect ...

ever since i arrived i was trying to contact her but was unsuccessful....the credit goes to the training schedule at my company.... and when she finally did.... and wanted to meet me as soon as possible......... the best possiblity being the diwali weekend....or perhaps the next one.... again due to unavoidable circumstances at my end.... i was not able to it this time too.... finally she was so upset that she messaged me.... now on she had absolutely no hopes of meeting me in future....at my end i just helplessly gazed at the message.... of all the people i had never expected this from smirti.... yes thats her name.... n true to her name.... thats whats she means to me.... a memory which dates back to our childhood days....in an impluse i decided i would meet her the coming weekend itself.... against all the commitents..... i was scared n both excited at the same time while i was travelling from mysore to bangalore.....
two of my training friends and me took the bus from the campus itself.... at6am.... the reporting time for which is generally 5am( not only if u want to land up with a comfortable seat rather if u want to travel in the particular bus too).... i couldnt sleep in the bus.... even when i was awake the entire last night.... we reached bangalore at 9 am.... all we were searching for was a place to shop......... after all we had received our last month salary....our "FIRST" salary.... so we went to commercial street.... it was only 9:30 am .... had a quick breakfast at the only restuarant which was opened at that hour....after gnawing the dish(which was referred as Idli by the person serving us).....we came out(my watch read 10:00am) n then kicked off with a bit of shopping.... the best part being that i paid for everything through my new n the only debit card( my sincere gratitudes to my present employer).... the best because i was paying through the debit card which is till date was considered as a luxury by me..... it gave me a feeling of all grownup.... u know what i mean..... firstly paying in style as if i had a overflooding bank account.....when the truth was that, the account had only 10,000 n something......... n secondly that, its my first official income....finally we went to forum..... met her.... after 9years....she was still the same jolly.... polly,light hearted.... the girl who could make me 32 all out.... had lunch(MacVeggie, Fies and a Coke) in MacDonalds.... i had been to more then 25 MacDonalds outlets in the ncr during my graduation days but this one seems above all others.... shared few cherished moments.... went home with her....met her parents....it seemed nothing was touched with change in due course of time....n i pray it remains just the same.... the trend is carried forward in future too..... the clock seemed ticking away so fast when i wanted it to stay the same.... i was suppose to meet other two schoolmates of mine.... but to my sheer luck... one was struck up waiting for the bus.... n other with some work....finally so we returned to forum.....on her scooty..... i felt like a free bird....the same polluted air which i was so mal... few hours back seem to be full of fragrance.... fragrance of my childhood.... of innocence...i wanted to be a kid.....wanted to go to school.... wanted to solve the same stupid maths problems which gave me real nightmares.....learn more n enjoy much more....i wish travelingg back in time was possible.... any how now lets be back to reality.... we reached forum....at 5pm...my training friends wanted to stay for the night n leave for mysore the next day..... they asked me if i had a probs with the pan?? probs no ways.... i was waiting for such a opportunity..... met one the guys( one of the school friends)....but he left early.... then had a lengthly chat with her....about every possible topic under the sun.....i dont know weather it was the talks or the chocolates(which we were sharing) that were sweeter....called the other schoolmate....this time he was finally free n arrived at forum.....met him.... he had changed..... n turned to be busy too.... pata nahi ladke sach me itne busy hote hai ki bas bolte hai.... he left at 7:30 and then i met few of her friends( at their place) n then there i was at forum again....yes perhaps it was my fourth visit on the single day.... i liked the place because the place reminded me of my college trips to malls with my batch friends n hall effect.....one of the most popular hangouts with friends in ncr..... the same showrooms....the same crowd.... same MacDonalds.....n yes the same old window shopping..... there were times when we thought once we start earning we would buy this..... buy that.... but then it never happens this way.....

we went back home.... at 10:30pm.... i must really confess that i was scared to death..... i mean two girls.... 10:30pm.... all alone..... when none with slighest know how of any kind of martial arts.....when we reached home.... smiriti cooked up a nice story for arriving this late.... n after a break of.... i dont remember how many days, i didnt feel guilty about lying.... i slept like a baby that night.......... the morning session was fun too.....after all its rare.... when u get a chance to be a part of family.... which does not comprises of kins.... i returned back to mysore with memories of less then a day but an impact of more then a lifetime.....

Vision V/s Values

The HR Induction at my company encompassed of a number of sessions.... my personal favourite was the C-LIFE one... majoring because of the orator( HR Head of Mysore DC)

C-> Customer Delight
L -> Leadership by example
I -> Integrity
F -> Fairness in actions
E -> Pursuance of excellence

The session started with the famous tale of "Pontiac and Vanilla Ice-cream" by Sir( we in our Company are primarily recommended to address everyone by their first names.... but i think there is a certain class of people who just dont necessary command respect rather deserve it from people around them.... he has a voice which demands one's attention and at no point would let it go).... after the tale came the dictionary meanings of Values and Vision .... we were asked to give our views about the key words.....one of us stood up n said "Values are what we possess and Vision is what we try to achieve through it....".... At this point Arun Sir asked us to formally introduce ourselves before we expressed our views on the subjects following in the sessions... but with a pun which was .... "My Mom asked me not to talk to the strangers.... so if u want me to answer u kindly introduce urself".... then came the activity when we were asked to pen down one situation each when we had compromised n not .... with our values.....something which was not a difficult task .... then came the difficult part of the activity when this scribble was suppose to be made public.... some of us came up with situations where compromises were done on the grounds of practicality and professionalism.... the general view being " Compromises on Values is advisable only if its in public interest and not just limited to one's personal gains.... "

For me Vision and Values are like two sides of the same coin.... there is mutual coexistence between them.... there exists a dynamic equilibrium between the two forces... i would say Values are the Cause while Vision is its Effect.... u cannot have a good Vision without a proper set of Values.....

Amongst clouds

Time : 10:30 pm
Date : 8th Oct'06
Location: Indira Ghandhi International Airport, on board ** #### to Bangalore

Most people amongst us cherish a little dream life long.... "What if i could fly????" Maybe thats how Wright brothers came up with the idea of "Aeroplanes"..... Ever since aeroplanes have been invented and later commerialised.... they have helped in materialising this to a great extent.... But to certain group of paranoids like me the idea of being on land n traveling by road or rail seems better .... i m not scared of heights or speed.... but both when put together i cant handle it.... Something similar happened when i was suppose tp travel by air for the first time.... it seems we couldnt get the rail tickets at such short notice.... and all i could say was "God why me??? i never wanted to fly"....the only relief being that i wasnt asked to travel alone....i feel practically everybody who has flown remembers their first flight... but before must of us physically take that journey, we would have already imagined a lot of things about that flight... the outside view, the feeling when airborne, the food frequent travelers complain about, the pretty airhostess and in certain cases the air cashes and hijackes too.....

As this was my first fight experience papa gave me the general instructions starting with the total weight of luggage u r allowed to carry....the stuff u r not supposed to carry in fight these days.... thanks to the new set of security norms being put to practice after the Hearthrow Airport attacks..... my decision not to fly again was only getting more firm...

We reached the delhi domestic airport at 7:15 pm two n half hours early...done with the formalities within 15 minutes.... i entered the waiting lobby, searching for a scared soul like me....only to find it almost empty....i generally avoid crowdy places but today the senerity of the place was bothering me.... i started off with the book but had to abandon the idea soon....my mind was now meandering with thoughts as What if there is a terrorist on board, what if the plane gets hijacked.... what if it wing's catches fire due to lightening stroke...what if it crashes....my thoughts were interrupted when papa came along with his coffee and said "so....All set to go"....i wanted to confess about my fears of flying but all i did was to smile in affirmation....
Inside the plane.... i had the window seat .... the one from where u could the wings and motor....i closed my eyes and tired concentrating to feel some kind of an ESP( like the guy in the Final Destination I).......thoughts interrupted again with the regular guidelines for the passengers...

Ladies and Gentlemen, Namaskar and welcome to Jet Airways flight ** ###. Please pay attention to the instructions given….The seat belts can be fastened by pressing the buckle into the holder.The seat belts are needed to be fastened as long as the indicator above your head is red. As you can there are two emergency exits - one at the back and one behind me. In case of any emergency, oxygen masks will drop in from the panel above.Please help yourself first rather the person next to you....
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is u r Caption Speaking. The flight duration is 1 hour 40 minutes. Have a pleasant journey and thank you for flying with Jet Airways .....

i dont remember the last time when i had paid so much attention while receiving instructions.... with the seatbelt tired around me..... i read the pamplet to go through the instructions again and again.... the takeoff was getting delayed.... now when i was inside the plane... i wanted IT to start early n reach our destination early ..in order to distract myself i initiated a conversation with papa.... this time it was hard to disguise my fears....he tired to pacify me but all in vain.... finally the plane took off.... i crossed my fingers n glanced at my watch..... n thn the window..... only to be mesmerised by the view.... the black background embedded with tiny scintilating sparkles..... endless stream of lights like like a star stunned clear night, a galaxy view, no even better..... a sight describing which in words would only mar its effect....soon it was all gone.... all i could see now some scattered bits of clouds.... it was then that i realised i was still inside a plane with 90 minutes still to go....but with the rate the crew was tendering the services.... time seemed to be ticking away soon... soon i heard the pilot announcing the bangalore temperature.... n other details.....it was time to land....

If this is what people call a flying experience then "FLYING IS NOT ALL THAT BAD"